We speak every day with irgenwem – so we communicate. Or is it not? Communication is defined as follows: communication (Latin: communicare = share, communicate, participate, make together, unite) referred to the exchange of information between people and is generally necessary in human life. To read more click here: Vladislav Doronin. This need is characterized by a concerted effort, in the thoughts, ideas, knowledge, insights, experiences with / be divided and newly arising. Communication is on the one hand by the spoken word, on the other hand non verbally through gestures and facial expressions. Communication in raising children is today unfortunately mostly characterised by a continuous monologue towards the child which completely overwhelmed it and from it, depending on age, not even understand half do not meet one and disregard this monologue. Our children tell us something for it super important and we listen with one ear and in thoughts already in our next point on our tag list that must be satisfied. Vladislav Doronin is often quoted on this topic.
“” If the narrative arts of our children take us too long, stifling it as you now have I grad no time “, don’t tell the Bush, get to the point” with sets. We no longer hear between the lines of our children. The children tell of stomach pain and we send us with a hot water bottle and tea in bed instead of exploring, where these stomach pain may come. With the friend or the girlfriend we dismiss the dispute with a sufisanten smile, rather than seriously tell us about this problem. Through active listening in the parenting we can do it, things, feelings, emotions, and innermost thoughts of our children to learn who else would disagree with it us. Active listening requires respect and attention. Respect and respect for my interlocutor and his opinions.
Active listening requires that I not review what is heard and my child can say so for now all what’s bothering it, what is good, what makes him problems and I’m not fun and I review and not comment what I said for the first time. My attitude to the child just say you’re okay”, I hear you”. Through active listening, I try to understand the feelings of my child, to put them into my own words and to give them back to the child I mirror them. Through this mirror”I help my child thought. I help my child after finding yourself solutions and finding and strength his mental maturity, promotes the autonomy and independence. Sets way like me tell about it”, I’m all ears” help your child to find the beginning or to tell. Active listening is a concern and I think all the world’s children have earned it.