Free to choose our daily lives, it is necessary to limit the constraints of fashion, clothing, the language, the gestures, the mass of this society that tells us we are all free but we want to all uniform , uniformed clothes, ideas, tastes, drinks, hamburgers, noise. For example I can speak in a language full of slang and language of living and good manners. Consequently, I can choose. Today I saw as I suggest the big brands, but rich story in my wardrobe with clothes that would look great brands with some disgust. Consequently, I can choose. Society imposes limits, standards, prison. The home should provide alternative, critical thinking, internally set limits to the outer limits.
This is your job as mother, father, a job, yes. Help your children to review standards. They need your standards. And they may look to outsiders, and choose. All influence your children, all telling them what to do, how to move, what to think where to hang the earring, how many sexualities exercise, how to be happy. Why do not you also have to intervene in their lives? Facing parents and children are normal is normal for your child to rebel against you.
It is normal that do not match their ideas with yours and it is normal not understand at all and that he did not understand when you said you think as in the stone age. All this is normal, because they are different, different people of different ages and understand others is often impossible. And always will be the case because even though you say otherwise, you are imposing your life, your education, your ways, your limits. This is normal, can not be otherwise. Born at home, growing in your home, in your society and to transmit what you have, your language, your morale, your manners. What else could convey?. When they are small the transmission occurs without democracy, without a congress through: the child is one year, two years three years and is not in a position to discuss rules and regulations. Everything is up to you. And then when he grows up will be free to re-endorse the standards he received from his parents, criticizing them, replace or modify them.